Being grateful

You often read it in feel-good magazines: be grateful. You read tips like: write down three things you are grateful for every day. I believe this can help. It gives me a more positive view about my own life. It prevents me from getting gloomy by worrying about my gender dysphoria.

And there are certainly little things that make me happy. I am grateful for those.

I want to thank hairdresser Linda, who knows I am transgender but treats me like all her lady clients. Who talks to me about everyday things while she washes, conditions, cuts and dries my hair.

I want to thank beauty specialist Liselotte for her warm welcome. I visited her the other day in boy mode and told her my story. It made her happy. It seemed like an honor for her to be allowed to help me. I had my eyebrows styled for the first time, and she did it with such skill and enthusiasm. And I still enjoy the result.

I want to thank my colleagues, who compliment me on my nice shoes. (To be honest, they are all female colleagues, I guess most men are blind to shoes.) My colleagues don’t yet know that I am trans, nor do they know that these shoes come from the women’s department (they are not too typically feminine), but I am delighted by the compliments.

I thank my (again female) friends who say I look good with my new haircut. They too don’t know that I am trans, they don’t know that I grow my hair to look more feminine, but it is nice to hear.

I thank my online and real-world friends from the local TG community for their openness and willingness to listen. What moves me the most is that they are so inclusive. As a transgender person who is currently choosing not to go for a medical transition, I sometimes feel insecure. I feel “not trans enough”. But they welcome me as one of them. They are sweethearts.

I thank my wife who still has a hard time with my gender journey. She doesn’t want to see me in my most feminine form, but she dares to make jokes about it. She accepts me as a gender-diverse person. She allows me my me-time, when I go out for the day as Louise. And then she says “Have a nice day”. I love her.

One thought on “Being grateful

  1. “I thank my wife who still has a hard time with my gender journey. She doesn’t want to see me in my most feminine form, but she dares to make jokes about it. She accepts me as a gender-diverse person. She allows me my me-time, when I go out for the day as Louise. And then she says “Have a nice day”. I love her”

    Very much the same in my situation, although she ask me sometimes to see me as feminine as possible recently. Things do change sometimes ! But making hints, remarks and indeed sometimes jokes. Recently on the almanac of “Love is” was mentioned : love is wearing this clothes and she showed it to me and said, can also be the opposite. Gives me very warm feelings for her on that moment. She accepts me and allows me indeed to experience a bit my genderdiversity, but in my case not the slightest hint ro change something to my body, but shaving but that’s a bit difficult for her and I respect that. Recently went to the ‘poederdoos’ and she learnt me how to make me up and wished me good luck. Feels so good and I let her feel that too; Enforcening even our relation !

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